We are all in the
pursuit of happiness in one way or another whether we realize it or not.
Regardless of our situation, we are always looking to find happiness in every
little bit of parameters of life whether it is in our relationships, job or
family just to mention a few. One of the key components of happiness in life is
the ability to have long lasting relationship that make sense and provide us
with some sense of feeling of love which can translate into happiness
altogether. Long lasting relationships are difficult to cultivate and there are
a few reasons why. That notwithstanding, we need to find out how we can have a
long lasting relationship regardless of the barriers and if the barriers exist,
how we can overcome them and maintain a long fruitful and lasting relationship.
A long lasting
relationship is cultivated, nurtured and nourished by both partners. Imagine a
relationship like a small plant that needs to be watered, provided enough
sunlight, provided with enough nutrients and protected from harmful factors
such as pests and diseases. With such a comparison of a relationship to a
plant, we can now safely say that a lot of work should be put in having a long
lasting relationship. Some of the factors that can help in maintaining a long
lasting relationship include:
Choosing the right partner
Who is the right
partner and is there a way you can tell that a person is right for you and that
you can have a long lasting relationship with them. Well in some sense it is a
complex determination and hence at times it is easier to rely on your instincts
and general feeling towards someone especially your partner. Compatibility
plays a major role in determining whether a companion is right for you. If you
have the same goals, ambitions, like the same thing, and probably have some
similar characteristics, then it is a sure bet that you can have a long lasting
relationship with that person. This does not mean that compatibility is the
only factor to consider. This is but one of the many factors when combined can cultivate
a long lasting relationship. After all who would have a relationship with
someone that they are not compatible with?
Communication
Taken very lightly in
relationships, this is probably the most important factor to consider when you
want to have a long lasting relationship with your partner. Communication
involves how you talks and how you express your feelings, emotions, ideas as
well as opinions to someone. The mere fact that communication is the biggest destroyer
of relationships has not really hit home with most people in relationships. Failure
to have a communication channel between spouses, partners and even family
members cause a lot of relationships breakdown. Open, regular and direct
communication is highly encouraged for people who wish to have healthy long
lasting relationships.
Honesty
Virtues in
relationships are really important in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Honesty does not just imply to the partner, it also encompasses honesty within
oneself. Understanding yourself is a key in creating good relationships as
well. When you are honest to yourself it generally but not implicitly becomes
easier to be honest to your partner. Honesty involves sharing of frustration,
listening, being truthful and always sharing. These qualities of honesty really
makes it easier for one to trust another and hence ensures that a relationship
is strengthened.
Commitment
Long lasting
relationships always have the distinct characteristic of commitment. Commitment
levels really ensure that relationships are strong, firm and unshakable to say
the very least. This means that when one is committed to a relationship, they
are willing to work towards making the relationship work. In tough times,
commitment comes in handy since a committed partner will always be willing to
work things out for the benefit of the relationship and partners as well. High
levels of commitment have a power effect on levels of trust and even fosters
strong and healthy relationships.
Compromise
This is probably the
most difficult of characteristics to attain for people in a relationship. First
people need to understand that in a relationship, the partakers are very
different in the way they think, view the world and see things. Therefore it is
very important to accept this fact that we are all different and we are not the
same. Realizing this is the first step in adopting compromise. Compromise does
not mean that one has to lower their standards in order to accommodate those
who cannot raise theirs. It is all about realizing that all that we need to do
in a relationship is shed away our egotistical nature and learn to compromise
by having that will to take a step forward to solve issues, communicate and
even change behaviors for the betterment of the relationship. Whoever said this
is an easy task must be an outright liar since this is probably the hardest of tasks
to achieve. With compromise, a relationship can always be gunning to reach new
heights and escape troubles with ease hence making it stronger, healthier and
last long.
These are just but a
few ways in which one can ensure that they have a long lasting relationship. A
lot of other factors are still very viable depending on the situation at hand
and the partners in the relationship. Other than that, a long lasting
relationship is the work of both parties and is always a collective effort that
brings joy, happiness and health to those who attain it.




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